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getitgotit

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Enough of drama
« on: September 19, 2017, 01:14:14 am »
Hello Jed!

I am actually coming here to search for help. Well...  ::) I can see who around me is not H/A -
But wow! I am in the midst of a bad Situation. My closest relationship says I have borderline, I Need help and he does not let go of that opinion and even tells others and wants me to realize that I Need help etc etc - Drama, what can you do - ...  I want to be H/A, I just Need to find my way to H/A. I know that you are not a self help Guru but yoiu might be able to give me a tip to H/A.. 

If I go on like this, I will develop Cancer or age fast

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Re: Enough of drama
« Reply #1 on: September 19, 2017, 01:20:15 am »
Hi there:

To me, that ''closest relationship'' doesn't sound very healthy or happy. What are you getting out of sticking around it? Perhaps you do need help, help in getting that other being out of your life.

It takes two to tango.

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Re: Enough of drama
« Reply #2 on: September 19, 2017, 08:55:27 am »
Not much : some little time - almost none- which is superficially harmonious and in love but with an underlying sense of shame and fear of it turning around again

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Re: Enough of drama
« Reply #3 on: September 19, 2017, 09:17:03 am »
I just posted a Rant on H/A. Have a read.

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Re: Enough of drama
« Reply #4 on: September 21, 2017, 06:24:22 am »
I appreciate . What I also stay for is the lies. I went in for a lie , I have a hard time being honest with him and I do not want to leave him and still have lies .. that's that

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Re: Enough of drama
« Reply #5 on: September 21, 2017, 01:09:05 pm »
How do you know if another is lying?

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« Reply #6 on: September 21, 2017, 03:37:30 pm »
I cannot but if I feel a sense of honesty and sincerity within me I feel it in the other where I do not care if they lie because if they would it would be fine because I trust they know or are ok as they are

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Re: Enough of drama
« Reply #7 on: September 22, 2017, 04:23:05 am »
Sounds like baffle-gab... but who am I do talk?

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Re: Enough of drama
« Reply #8 on: September 22, 2017, 04:45:47 am »
Don't hurt my feelings. I am currently at a place that I would call : bla. I don't care much - feel peaceful - but still holding on to the - gone- - and - fearful - relationship - how to be true to myself?

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Re: Enough of drama
« Reply #9 on: September 23, 2017, 03:28:09 am »
Find out precisely who wants to be true to whom? Then you will ''know''...  :P :P :P ::) 8) 8) 8) :o

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Re: Enough of drama
« Reply #10 on: September 23, 2017, 05:37:22 am »
Of Course, everything Comes out of this -- words cannot describe it. Thus, ok, no me and myself, no Division.

I guess I am struggling with my own stupidity. Why do I waste time..? Why not decide to go and live this life as fully as possible, enjoying everything, doing Things I want to do  ::) Stupidity. Habits. Fear --> intense e-Motion which is not in-Motion.

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Re: Enough of drama
« Reply #11 on: September 23, 2017, 05:53:51 am »
If the Realisation I am this and all this goes deeper it feels like a playground

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Re: Enough of drama
« Reply #12 on: September 23, 2017, 11:16:33 am »
So.... start playing with it...  ;) ;) ;) ::) :P

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Re: Enough of drama
« Reply #13 on: September 24, 2017, 03:08:15 am »
What if I had an entirely different story.  I have ... in Germany we do not say I am afraid, we do usually say I have fear .. i have -- fear can be lost then -- get lost fear! Hm.. i do really have fear -- losing this story -- the favorite I've had so far (romance)BUT what if I played with all that ? Sure of not taking it too seriously , just playing like a child :) nothing is serious / is nothingness then serious ?

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Re: Enough of drama
« Reply #14 on: September 25, 2017, 02:57:15 am »
Look very closely at what you mean by ''serious''.

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