Dearest Sal:
My two bits worth... or two shillings worth, or whatever the coin of the realm is where you are.
Very seldom T/R just drops in on someone, they skip the H/A thing all together. It can really be a f-up if they aren't prepared. Lives get shattered and it can take tens of years to put back to some semblance of sanity. However, it's extremely rare.
H/A is about being functional in this little world and thus prepared for T/R if it comes along. T/R has been called a divine accident and H/A makes you more accident prone.
Many people will say the world is perfect as it is, and I agree, but on this plane we have something called the 'next moment' and I maintain that could be just a sliver better than the 'previous moment'. Growing, learning and experiencing are all part of what is going on here.
Another silly story if you will permit me... you are a 10 year old and want a Ph.D. in nuclear physics. If, through some strange mechanism, all that info was just dumped into your head, your circuits would simply fry, not have a friggin clue what to do. Overloaded. Breakers thrown.
So, this is the danger, not the right word but WTF, of not being an adult when the blue bird of T/R craps on your birthday cake. You simple aren't prepared. H/A is not that complex really, just a good deal of releasing, forgiving people and past plus slowing down some of your spontaneous ego based idiotic behaviors. (not you Sal, only applies to others) Gentle understanding is called for and you will be more prone to that divine accident happening.
I have said that realization is a gentle breeze and the only discomfort or upset is what we cling to. The breeze is always there and the pain is the clinging.
What Do you cling to most, right now, in this moment as you read this? Stop, take a breath and go inside. Absolutely no blame or putting you down. It takes guts and I admire anyone who can sincerely do it. I know you are clinging to something that's pretty big because we have communicated for years on the last forum. You don't have to say what it is, your choice in that, I want for you to be aware of it only. No beating yourself up, and no denying and definitely not trying to change it. That very busy mind of yours will just sidetrack you, so you have my permission to tell it to 'SHUT THE F UP'.
If full blown T/R smacks you upside the face, so be it. Much of what I am doing here is trying to prep that ten year old for a Ph.D. down load, well, 'unload' would be a better word.
Let me suggest something, if you haven't already done it. Google Ramana Maharshi and get a picture of him. Nah, better idea, I break my rules:
https://www.google.com.vn/search?q=picture+of+ramana+maharshi&biw=1366&bih=651&tbm=isch&tbo=u&source=univ&sa=X&ei=ld1mVNGENqa5mAXxz4GwAg&ved=0CBoQsAQLook into his eyes and you will get a sense of what I am pointing at. Daily matters were of no import to him. People had to pretty much hand feed and take care of him to keep him in this plane. He is the only person that I would like to have met in the flesh.
I'm beginning to wander here. H/A is just my way of saying get a little sane in preparation for ... and now I run out of words.... T/R will have to suffice. Smiley of Ramana in shades
cool dude, the coolest.
Love ya, Jed.