Ahh... good question. You are talking about two things... right... nope, not right. One exists and is real...and the other is just a dream. Remember, anything that arises eventually subsides... and anything that arises and subsides is not ''real''. You are talking apples and oranges.
The dream arises and is totally causeless. Actually everything is causeless... and that is not an easy one to wrap your mind around. There is no ''you'' who could manifest anything. If a harem is to arise, then it will, if not you are going to have to do without it.
You have what you need right now.
Love ya, Jed.