INVISIBLE GURU FORUM

Hi there Ah:

Welcome and thanks for your question. It is indeed a good one. In my experience and observations, of which I have an embarrassing number of years to my credit, the mold has been pretty much cast by seven or eight years of age.

I assume you are not T/R and are sorta a follower (ooohhh.... my bad there) or just reading up on the subject. I certainly applaud that but when it comes to raising children, I much prefer answer to their questions be non-answers. My father happened to be brilliant at that. When I asked a questions he would inevitably invite some kind of mutual exploration of the subject.

Q: Hey day, what the lighted and heaviest word.... no answer,

Next day he arrived with a block of balsa and a similar sized on of lignum vitae. We both learned.. only I probably learned more than him. I was learning how to explore and parent.

How about an example of how you life is going with the little ones. Remember, you can't teach what you don't know but you can always model out learning and discover for all parties.

Love ya, Jed.

Took my child to Waldorf... probably about 10 years old at the time, not bad, but really just a better factory. Much home schooling followed that. Schools are almost all institutionalized child abuse.... and I don't say that lightly.

My suggestion is STOP TELLING THEM, especially things that you know are outright lies... do you think they can't sense lies.... probably a crap load better that you can.

Q: Is there a God, (or for the dyslexics in the crowd..''Is there a Dog.) 
A: Well, that's a great question. There a so many people that think they have the answer.... let's start a little book, (drawings if younger) and you and I explore that question... so, if there was a God, would it be a man or a woman. (of course that's a trick question. Anyone with half a brain knows it's a woman). Maybe we can go to different temples, churches or mosques and see what other folks think. Perhaps read some books on the subject. Don't waste time sitting around rationalizing better ways to lie.

Remember (ohh... I can here the hate mail coming in) it is NOT you job to love your child, and I am not saying that there is nothing wrong with that, however, JOB #1 is raising your child to become and adult, and just possibly make some future contribution to the dream of humanness by then going out into the world and raising more adults.

You child will model out what you do, be it lying or b.s. or perhaps a sense of questioning and curiosity. He/she will model out parts of you that even you are not aware of, so here is an opportunity for you to grow and learn as much as your child.

Spirit of inquiry... when a child says ''Why?" practice saying something more Truthish, like ''I don't know'', or ''Let's see what we can find out about that.''. Also, forgive your parents (this is a biggie). They were raise by people who for the most part had no training and no clue as to how to parent. Also read Dumbing us Down, by John Gatto. Brilliant and honest work.

AND, for heaven's sake, put more fun in your life. I can smell a serious fun deficiency. It's the best way to learn.

T/R means Truth Realization, AKA, enlightenment, realizing your True Nature, and a variety of other words used to describe what cannot be described... perhaps throw ''God'' in there too.

I wish you the best... and realize that you're going to screw up plenty... so never forget to forgive yourself. It's just part of this wonderful dream.

Love ya, Jed.

Dreams occur sometimes and not sometimes. Haven't had a ''bad'' dream in over twenty years, but why do you ask. Are you trying attach some importance and significance to dream? Don't waste your time. Night dreams are as insignificant as this day dream.

Love ya, Jed.

P.S. you already have more than enough importances to weigh you down.

What's the problem, you don't have any choice anyways, so about the only thing to do is watch what arises... that's all I do and you'd be surprised how well it works out. Try it.

Love ya, Jed.

Well... it seems to be what this dream body is inclined to do... now. Tomorrow I might become a rock star... no one here to know and no one here to care...

Mind, ego and society will ask ''Isn't that boring?''. How can never knowing that is going to arise next be boring? It's quite fascinating and always different.

As to answering questions on the forum and running the Series ... I have no idea why I do it and enjoy it. It's beyond me.   

Love ya, Jed.