As Buddha is purported to have said (he probably said a millionth of what has been attributed to him), the cause of suffering is desire.
Desire is an attachment or an aversion (same thing, but different polarities) to anything, and the most painful ones are the one you create though your stories.
At the H/A level human love is attainable but not the garbage society says it is. At T/R, human love is meaningless because there is no one ''out there'' to love. In reality, ''LOVE" is all there is. But I reiterate, it's not what you think it is.
Desire what you will but I caution you against being attached to your desires. Attachment glue is very sticky. The solvent is available in limitless quantities, intent awareness. Desire your human love all you want, it can be fun... but don't take it, or anything... including me, seriously. Seriousness is a much more weighty illness than desire and it is currently at pandemic proportions.
On a more practical level, something that a few of my Nav Series students have used successfully, I suggest you list the qualities you seek in a lover. Five or ten will do. Then turn all your effort spent in thinking and seeking love to living/modelling out the qualities you seek. Forget about chasing human love, just focus on being those qualities you seek. I guarantee that given enough patience someone ''special'' will come into your life.
Remember, anything that comes goes.
Said person will eventually leave you (or visa versa)
as this is the nature of the dream. Watch closely how he/she speaks of and deals with past relationships, which how they will treat you as well when it ends.
When you eventually tire of such things (trust me, you will) you can focus your energy more effectively on the only thing that ''might'' matter in this dream... you know.... THAT!
Love ya, Jed.