Thank you voor the comprehensive response. Still i'm surprised by the fact that, for me, it was really, really hard to learn such a simple thing. Having this 'just as information' never really helped me out. The information was there for years. Just a short time ago it actually landed. It's really sad and really hilarious to me at the same time.
One major step in growing into H/A is dealing with one's importances. It not uncomfortable, it's very effective and it's very inexpensive when done the proper way.
Do you mean this: don't let the stuff that actually is important lose its importance?