Thank you for this reply, Jed. It was bang on and I knew it, even though it was hard to hear at the time. I took your advice. Tried to give up 'searching' and just live life. I got into a relationship, traveled, met a bunch of people, danced, went to parties. And then I started to see how driven I was by self-hatred and shame. While I know there is no self here to love, I realized that to hate what is arising is a denial of reality. And slowly I am getting better at being with everything that happens.
As you predicted, more truth has been revealed. I have moments of complete presence and then I'm sucked back in again. I started reading your books again too and reading the line about life having no meaning on the streetcar sent me into this ecstatic freedom for a day. I could see all the conditioning, habits and fear driving everyone around me, but knew I could choose to be free from it. Although it didn't last.
So I guess I'm writing to see if you have any practical advice. I have these insights, yet I know I am not free. My life is meaningless. I go to work and do a good job, because I don't know what else to do. I crave intimacy, but don't know how to relate to people anymore. My old friends and work colleagues are too caught up in striving for me to relate to. And my 'spiritual' friends seem deluded now too. I'm starting a meditation group which has no teaching and no talking, thinking maybe others who just want to be silent together might join. Short of that I'm out of ideas. Any suggestions for how to live life in this state would be appreciated.
with thanks,
sparkle