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Re: Why is life unfair?
« Reply #105 on: June 16, 2017, 05:16:16 pm »
i'm trying this abstaining to ****/****(nofap cult) for some so called benefits of energy/mental clarity giving it a shot, am i resisting the urge to masturbate or am i listening to what i want? which is change, i'm a little confused on what am i resisting am i resisting change or am i resisting masturbating? i feel like with any context i can defend anything around not knowing what am i truly defending? am i resisting fear of failure am i resisting.. what am i resisting is the question, i ask myself what is true, is this true? i can't really figure it out

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Re: Why is life unfair?
« Reply #106 on: June 17, 2017, 01:13:28 am »
Don't worry, no ''mind'' has ever figured ''it'' out.

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P.S. let go of you need to control. It's very big in you.

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« Reply #107 on: June 17, 2017, 01:58:07 am »
"So you know that the "objective reality" is just in my mind, right? "re-construct" is actually false. Which means all my assumptions about the "objective reality" (including my own cells and dna and chemicals and whatnot) are also false.

This is why you still cling to your identity as a small person in opposition to a big world. And why I feel like a vulnerable outsider who needs to adapt and control and take positions etc. in a hostile external environment."

"Because it looks that way." -- Donald Hoffman

but it's automatic! so taking control can be not really taking control paradox ?

yikes i really don't know how to let go do i jed

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« Reply #108 on: June 17, 2017, 03:10:12 am »
You actually do know how to let go. You have done it with thousands of (probably) insignificant things in our life. You just have little confidence in you ability are still a bit of a control freak.

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Re: Why is life unfair?
« Reply #109 on: June 17, 2017, 08:11:17 am »
isn't letting go a form of controlling?


replacing negatives with positives is that resistance?

how do i ascend negatives to positives without being destructive, do i just feel them watch them,act on them by playing the role and they'll automatically change for the good overtime while being aware or is it only after i reflect and contemplate? ( which is another form of controlling.. is it? unless if it's what the mind wants to do, is the mind the boss or am i really a slave i thought i was free )
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« Reply #110 on: June 17, 2017, 02:09:58 pm »
What makes you think that letting go is a form of controlling. You've said you can't seem to do is, so you probably don't know much about it.

Please explain how it is a form of controlling.

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Re: Why is life unfair?
« Reply #111 on: June 17, 2017, 03:35:45 pm »
if i say let go, i try to clear my mind, the moment i try to clear my mind am i not controlling myself? or even rather just telling myself i'm watching myself with awareness, isn't that controlling as i just initiated an act

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Re: Why is life unfair?
« Reply #112 on: June 17, 2017, 03:39:04 pm »
Dreamstate white rabbit, (the universe gives us what we want as it takes care of us, we learn to trust it slowly)

I'm confused with this paradox jed isn't this wishful thinking? is this even accurate? i thought jed said the universe doesn't care about us, yet adya says the universe gives you what you need and will listen to what you ask for because it's what feeds you to have those, it's all confusing..


Slightly out of topic but a rant crossed my mind

jed makes me feel worthless, i'm ok with feeling worthless because i already feel worthless which is why i came to you, to seek comfort at first, yet it kept rubbing it on me that i just adapted to it saying hey i'm fine with life being meaningless because that's how it's been for quite a while, but how the **** am i supposed to live it, i want answers.. i loop to cherry pick, yet should i be realistic or should i keep wishful thinking there as the universe kind of aids me randomly as it's all happening as you said, but like a religion that says god cares when he doesn't really as he isn't there, but absolute is there, and i wonder if absolute cares even though it's just presence that we are all in that seems chaotic randomly yet its perfect since it's it's own setting void that's beyond what we can communicate, here i am trying to make sense out of it like any other existential being trying to cling to some reason to live rationally, should i pick wishful thinking + rationality to get things done, or should i just pick both or should i switch between the sides and not be positive about things getting done out of the good, i read a post on reddit the other day about some guy posting about some random cousin he had that died in his room for weeks and no one noticed he just used to go to uni and back to his apartment and no one really visits him, his life was crappy, no one cared about him, he had some work, hell even work didn't care to check up on him as they just fired him, that post was depressing to read but then again i think of the random kids in africa just trying to get by to survive the world seems rather cruel, even some random cells that can't really sustain themselves and go around like mindless programmed cells trying to perceive it's CEO presence when it has it's own presence that lets it go around, it's just all **** confusing
I'm ok with feeling meaningless kind of but i still get mad about it it's frustrating overtime
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Re: Why is life unfair?
« Reply #113 on: June 18, 2017, 12:06:03 am »
What do you expect to get our of reading a depressing Reddit post, especially when you don't even know it is real. Maybe just b.s.?

Please tell me exactly what you expect to get before you write about anything else here.

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Re: Why is life unfair?
« Reply #114 on: June 18, 2017, 09:04:15 am »
i guess i was trying to find the flow of life (being present and knowing what is there to be done, even though it can be anything it doesn't matter) , it's just i can never see or realize i have it

i get washed by some emotions not allowing me to see it because it doesn't feel consistent since it's not aligned with the freedom illusion i imagined, feels like a chain, yet i notice i can enjoy a chain or rather i go skeptic and say do i really enjoy the chain or do am i optimistic about it being deluded once more? all this context and questioning does not really give me freedom and self deception lies in either path i pick which i question context used once more instead of actually living without regrets

i'm still quite confused, i cannot give up illusion nor desire as it's too automated to keep me within, is this what i always wanted temporarily without realizing it?

also, my judgement is rather poor due to being sleep deprived, my brain's burning quite often due to bad sleep so forgive me if i start to sound mad or offsync as i realized i'm just not a 100% in the head lately but that's been like that for quite a while since the tinnitus is very persistent in not letting me have physiological needs met
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Re: Why is life unfair?
« Reply #115 on: June 18, 2017, 09:53:10 am »
Breathing properly is a good start to help with sleep. Have you learned how to breathe?

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Re: Why is life unfair?
« Reply #116 on: June 18, 2017, 09:19:02 pm »
i think my breath work is terrible, and i have a cold almost everyday since my immune system is pretty bad
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Re: Why is life unfair?
« Reply #117 on: June 18, 2017, 11:02:20 pm »
OK. What are you going to do about it?

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Re: Why is life unfair?
« Reply #118 on: June 19, 2017, 06:36:17 pm »
well what's left is try to breath or not right?

i guess i'll try to breath..
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Re: Why is life unfair?
« Reply #119 on: June 20, 2017, 01:32:29 am »
Don't try, DO!

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