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Re: Why is life unfair?
« Reply #30 on: March 26, 2017, 12:40:30 pm »
How do i know which ride is for me without bs?

Is there no way of knowing as it's all subjective to cherry pick experience?

Self deception rides everywhere..
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Re: Why is life unfair?
« Reply #31 on: March 27, 2017, 03:47:50 am »
Whatever arises next is for you... now jump on.

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Re: Why is life unfair?
« Reply #32 on: March 27, 2017, 09:11:31 am »
I don't trust my mind Jed.. I don't trust this spacesuit but i guess i should use it with more caution
I have gained nothing but a full circle loop ironically but it feels better
Feeling detached while participating feels more calm then try harding worrying that i'm that important when the body isn't that important as it might think it is ofcourse i'd like it healthy but i still exist forever regardless if the body dies
Just won't have the memory of it next time which is a pain but it's alright i'll find myself eventually ; )

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Re: Why is life unfair?
« Reply #33 on: March 27, 2017, 10:51:04 am »
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Re: Why is life unfair?
« Reply #34 on: April 02, 2017, 02:21:29 pm »
hey jed, what does H/A mean?

Quote "1.) You think something should be other than it is. This is the ''I am a minor deity and know better than God'' syndrome. This thinking utilizes words like: should, shouldn't, must be, can't be, I need and/or I want. All quite sub-optimal for anyone seeking happiness and H/A."

my present experience changes quite often
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Re: Why is life unfair?
« Reply #35 on: April 03, 2017, 01:04:04 am »
Dear K:

H/A means Human Adulthood. There are surprisingly few real adults in the world. Most 50 yearish bodies are occupied by 7 to 10 year olds. A cursory look around will pretty much confirm that.

H/A is not a prerequisite to Truth Realization, however it makes the journey, and circumstances that can arise from T/R much easier to deal with.

I suggest you watch your behavior and ask yourself, ''Are my actions gentle, kind and loving?'' or ''Are my actions selfish, less than gentle, jealous and petty?'' That's just a broad brush stroke but covers that basics.

So... how did you do.  ??? ??? ??? ::) :P ;) ;)

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Re: Why is life unfair?
« Reply #36 on: April 03, 2017, 01:36:27 am »
I'm still a child taking lots of childish actions !!! :-[ :-[ :-[ :-[

although i love the playfulness of being a child and not so serious at life  :P :P :P

 :'( i don't want to grow up :'(

 i can try balance the 2 i guess :o maybe ???

 :( ;D :( ;D :( ;D a mixture of moods swing as clouds pass by reality is quite strange isn't yet simple and not ;)
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« Reply #37 on: April 03, 2017, 01:54:36 am »
Don't confuse H/A with not having child like qualities. Fun, play and lack of seriousness are instrumental in being a genuine adult. Lose those qualities and you are pretty much a boring husk...

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Re: Why is life unfair?
« Reply #38 on: April 03, 2017, 03:24:38 am »
I'm losing touch on being practical, i'm aware of everything and nothing

Should i go back to sleep and play the life role of this body with just some minor to major adjustments? Even though the answer was clear do whatever you want just be aware of the ego's illusions fake needs/wants.

hmm it's quite a hard approach, have i loop'd once more?

wish it was a permanent clear forever high :(

i feel like the ego has clung/attached itself to an insight of an illusion when it's something that can't be communicated with in the first place
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Re: Why is life unfair?
« Reply #39 on: April 03, 2017, 04:05:23 am »
Wishing, as you are, for a ''permanent clear forever high'', while attainable, will never be achieve while you are wanting it. That wanting is precisely what blocks it. In other words, they are mutually  exclusive.

Instead of wishing, try accepting and being with whatever arises. It will take you closer to your goal as opposed to further away from it.

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Re: Why is life unfair?
« Reply #40 on: April 03, 2017, 04:35:37 am »
the role of life, when a negative arises should I just accept it over resist ?

what about my actions towards life? if i lazy off my days, i may end up not achieving anything even there is nothing to be achieved as it's all in the mind.

accepting a so 'making a living' is also part of it and so is accepting lazyness. i feel counter intuitive at points when i embrace lazy days even when i cherish the now with them but i feel like i meet doom when i slack off something that was mandatory to success.

if i meet a paradox between a positive and negative, should i keep cherry picking positives? or will that be my downfall of not observing them, sometimes positives do not serve me i am aware. but sometimes they seem rather beneficial.. hard to tell out toxic or not due to a lack of intellect before calculating the next move

i am aware this is from in ego thought story

it seems i'm stuck in my past loop as i bought the story

how do i approach practicality should i do what i want with extra awareness or will that still bring me doom?
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Re: Why is life unfair?
« Reply #41 on: April 04, 2017, 12:14:30 am »
The way out is through, right through the middle of anything and everything that arises.

If you like sleeping indoors and eating now and then, you have to work in this dream. That's how you designed it. There are other dreams that don't require work.

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Re: Why is life unfair?
« Reply #42 on: April 08, 2017, 04:25:37 pm »
hey jed, i need some guidance on some meditation practise

i want to try a dark meditation retreat but i'm not sure what the guidelines are on such practice retreats

The practise is said to not expose ourself to any stimulation / light / sound just a dark room so it could hire our awareness/sensitivity overtime.

Are we allowed to shower? Since we're fasting 24/7 for 2 weeks is it ok to continue on the retreat after eating minimal foods 400~800 cal after the 2 weeks has passed? I'd like to go for a 5month dark home retreat but I'm unsure how to do this. How often should i drink water and how much? Would 400ml be enough per day for the first 2 weeks? I plan to do this although I can't seem to find any rules/guidelines on it? Any idea jed of such practises?

I'm going to try home like meditation
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Re: Why is life unfair?
« Reply #43 on: April 09, 2017, 12:14:48 am »
I suggest you ask the people who are putting in on. If they don't have any guide lines, I doubt if they know what they are doing.

Of course, you can always make up your own rules. I like making up my own rules when called for.

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Re: Why is life unfair?
« Reply #44 on: April 14, 2017, 01:36:35 am »
How do i deal with unconcious people?

I've been reading in spirtual books not to judge people but how is that possible to react to people if i can't judge them?

When is it time to judge and make up a story behind someone on how i treat them?

Should i really always be kind? Can i be a dick? Should i be both even though there is no me preference?
Take someone who doesn't keep score, who's not looking to be richer or afraid of losing, who has not the slightest interest even in his own personality. He is free ~ rumi