INVISIBLE GURU FORUM

Of course it's more difficult when applied to loved  ones.  However, that is where it is most important.

There is no challenge in giving up your attachment to the postman, unless you have been having an affair with him/her.

Know that they, you, it, we, me and all your dreams and memories don't last, ever. Could it be time to forgive, let go, appreciate and just enjoy what's been given to you in this moment. I don't know, maybe not worth it to you. It's not my life, it's yours, maybe...

Contemplate if you will and I am interested in your feedback, should it come.

Love ya, Jed.

........And on attachment...Why are people close to you

I wouldn't really be that bothered by the postman dying but yet in an instance I would well up at the thought of someone close to me dying

What does this person do, is it because they give me something I desire? They give me attention, affection? They make me feel better? Is it all just self serving....

But then with saying that....My father treated us poorly most the time, and I wouldn't say he provides me with many "positive" feelings at all....but I'm hugely attached to him and feel such an array of emotions towards him...

and I also appear to be forming a new attachment, which has felt out of my control and gradually happened over the past few months. Someone who claims they "love" me and wants to give me all they can to make me happy. I was scared of this attachment happening but here it is as I now get sad of the thought of loosing them.

It Seems there are many forms of attachment but what is the underlying meaning of it?

 

So this evening, I started to get this tension headache. I usually get this headache when I feel like im having a ...**** unproductive day. So its what I associate the Headache with.

When I had this headache earlier, I was starting to feel fed up, lethargic and began to read up on how it could be down to stress, anxiety blah blah. So of course it started to make me feel worse and worse until randomly a thought popped up of "but why does this have to be wrong?" along with this thought came a wave of energy. I began to wonder why not just accept the fact I have a bloody headache, who cares! This instantly began to calm me down, until I no longer felt as bad as I did minutes ago.

After accepting what was happening it made me wonder about how this should try and be applied to EVERY aspect of my life. Accept whole heartedly what is happening right now and you wont feel so bad. forget the story's you have made up and associated things with............

just a little offload

I think what Ive been doing is applying all the knowledge from books into my everyday life...without really Knowing it, for myself. So i never really feel any stability in what I think or whats going on.

Things like marriage and kids which once meant quite alot to me don't so much now...whether that will change again i don't know.
Still find it hard to accept what I think sometimes, about myself and situations...I want to let myself be as it is but sometimes feel that the people around me wont let me, with all their opinions on how things SHOULD be. (or maybe thats me)

I still try to control alot, Im scared of attachment, I feel the same feeling of anxiety etc over and over again which causes fustration. I hate how I still get caught up in Drama.

I dont know what I want it seems, as my desires are really sporadic and full of all sorts of emotions. I want it, get it, then dont like it, dont want it. At least If i could get clear on that I could quit wasting any potential time with enlightenment, success or any other of that bull crap that im after. Death makes you think to not take things seriously and to lighten da EFF up....but those moments are short lived and before you know it Youve taken over again. A girls still gotta make a living! BONNNNVOYYAAAGGGGE

I have bouts of feeling very low and fed up, I think ive bombarded myself with so much information that im not really thinking for myself and using everything and anything to try and not feel this way.

In the midst of this feeling, I feel very panicky and not able to deal with it. My annalytical mind doesnt want life to take over and bring me more distractions but at the same time i really dont know what to do with these emotions. I try to accept, but its all forced.  I am aware I can keep covering the wound but I believe the plaster will only peel off again soon. I do so much lying around, thinking still.

Hi Jed,

It would appear to me that what I want to do, is nothing..as thats what most of my time is filled with. Yet I am uncomfortable about this.
I believe that my desires to, go away, to the gym, to the park are most probably out of escapism, they take my mind off things. But to think that's all it does.. is becoming something I don't particularity want to keep up forever.

I fear that the reason I am doing nothing is because of fear.. and what I do is out of fear...Im not a huge risk taker, although I relish in the thought of big change, a change in me, moving on.

I recognize I am the one creating stories in my head... and It is ME experiencing moods, so I am wary not to get to carried away with the good ones (let alone the bad ones)

I contemplate on time, distraction, what I am waiting for, if I am waiting and how some form of decision needs to be made.

I would like to understand why my current situation is the way it is, what could be happening and if drastic action needs to be taken, regardless of how scary it might make me feel.

Wow, it's all me, my and I with you isn't it. One kick for every 'I' in your next post. Bend over baby, and two for every 'me'.

Love ya, Jed.