Dear Angel Eyes:
Got it, and I understand it. What I have observed in students and self, is that eventually the falsity of those who believe this dream is real becomes unbearably painful and one seeks in earnest to find out the Truth, or more accurately realize that Truth is.
Once one comes out the other side (for lack of a better way to label it) one can go back into the dream, work, study, have families and all that good stuff without the anxiety. Your anxiety is based on resistance to what ''appears'' to be, what arises. When you see through the dream you won't care what arises as you will know at a level deeper than mind that it's not real... it's just a dream... and of absolutely no consequence.
Do whatever you do with knowing that it is absolutely perfect... it cannot be any other way.
Love ya, Jed.