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Jed McKenna

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Jed rant, letting go, stimulated by Gromer
« on: November 03, 2014, 12:54:03 am »
Dear Members, a response you may enjoy...

Let's pretend for a moment only, that you are at the moment of your death. Now, you tell me exactly what you are going to cling to and what you are going to let go of.

How difficult do you want your death to be? You are dying every moment and yet still clinging. Let go of everything. Die to this world in order that you might actually come alive. You are never deader than you are at this very moment. Something to all these zombie movies.

Sometimes folks get caught in a thought like, 'Well crap, what will be left if I let go?'. There is only one way to find out and I assure you, you won't be disappointed.

Maybe the only real free will you have is the choice to let go or hold on, but wait, what the hell does 'holding on' mean? Thinking about, wanting, worrying, wishing, praying for, fearing some illness, disease or person will come into your life, thinking something should or shouldn't be.... pretty much everything humans do... is just 'holding on' and making what isn't more important than what is. (Thanks Jer.) Please read that again as I am feeling particular profound and seek your approval.... s h i t, there it goes, creeping in.

I have an idea. How about you list the things you are attached to. No explanation required, no reasons, just simple... the things you are attached to. If you're embarrassed about an attachment, say... something like 'golf', then just call it 'XXX' and you will know what you mean. I't's getting it on the screen and 'out there' that I would like to see.

I hallucinate much of this journey is very challenging for you. Could it be that the holding on to is all that's in your way. Your thoughts are welcome and I have a good deal of admiration... this takes guts, real guts and few are up to it.

Love ya, Jed.

 
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Re: Jed rant, letting go, stimulated by Gromer
« Reply #1 on: November 03, 2014, 01:24:43 am »
I was thinking about my mother, thinking about how much efforts she has put to try to make things work the way she wants but all in vain. Thus result in suffering. I felt sorry for her. I wish she could get on this liberating journey that I am going through that some day she could be free of suffering.
Then, I saw this post. Immediately I recognized mother is definitely on the top of my 'holding on' list. Off the list goes like this:

Mother
Nephew
Ms. Y
Sole will workshop
Enlightenment/truth/TR/HA
Youth/how I look (well, this one is very light, but still exist)

That's about it.


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Re: Jed rant, letting go, stimulated by Gromer
« Reply #2 on: November 03, 2014, 01:27:52 am »
Add one more on the list:
Jed or other 'enlightened' people's approval and recognition and affirmation.

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Re: Jed rant, letting go, stimulated by Gromer
« Reply #3 on: November 03, 2014, 02:08:29 am »
I just took a very good healthy ****, all yellow and soft ones. That's what I bought into the concept of 'healthy ****'. While sitting on the toilet, I gave it a little more thought about this. If I were really on the death bed and dying in every second, would I really hold on to all those above mentioned people and matters? No way. Or, maybe yes on some of them, but in a very positive way. I couldn't care less about other's approval or my look, but rather I'd be only care about my breath, and maybe smile at anyone who might be with me at that moment, tell him/her I love him/her and thank him/her, and thank every being I have ever encountered in my life, be it in any form. I do hope by then I have told mother that I don't think she has done any wrong to me anymore, and all I have for her is gratitude. I do hope that I've told my nephew and brother that I thank them for being in my life. It's not easy to say 'I love you' in Chinese to them, or, to anyone.

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Re: Jed rant, letting go, stimulated by Gromer
« Reply #4 on: November 03, 2014, 02:17:32 am »
Dear Jed,
Maybe this is the heart of everything you've been trying to say.
LET GO. ( 2 words)
This is the suicide. The willingness to be crucified, the willingness to slowly cut your
own head off ( your words I think).
That's why (I )didn't wake up yet and why very few wake up.
Intelligence and Jed (hihi) are showing me where the attachments are.
And I must say I really go for it.
One more little thingie. Letting go of family (parents, children, husband,...)for me seemed
huge. And it is, but now there is love with no expectations, no you should have's, no why didn't you's,
No I want this from you's or you have to do that for me's.

THANKS,REALLY!!
Love
Gwen

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« Reply #5 on: November 03, 2014, 02:57:21 am »
T/R
family
career
appearance
money
almost everything

In the beginning of my process of pursuing T/R I did let go everything except T/R but my condition became very bad. I guess it's because I misunderstood the meaning of "let go". I don't need to give up or resist them, but I shouldn't identify with them. Now I hold everything back again. I should exercise more on "letting go" in an appropriate way.

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« Reply #6 on: November 03, 2014, 04:12:10 am »
freedom
status
success
letting go
control
acceptance
beauty
pain
anger
confusion'
insecurities
desire
hope
family
heritage
love
fear

and probably about a thousand more....

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« Reply #7 on: November 03, 2014, 04:45:52 am »
Dear Cat:

WHAT? Only a thousand, come on...

Love ya, Jed.

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« Reply #8 on: November 03, 2014, 06:21:48 am »
A good night sleep

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Re: Jed rant, letting go, stimulated by Gromer
« Reply #9 on: November 03, 2014, 06:33:31 am »
Mine would be " I wish I had got to be one of those enlightened dudes and had been able to do something useful in helping others get enlightened, or even just to get them a taste of it. But no, I never got it, was still a frikkin seeker and wasted about 40% of my useful life watching TV or some other screen."

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Re: Jed rant, letting go, stimulated by Gromer
« Reply #10 on: November 03, 2014, 09:13:08 am »
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Jed McKenna on Today at 12:54:03 am

Let's pretend for a moment only, that you are at the moment of your death. Now, you tell me exactly what you are going to cling to and what you are going to let go of.

How difficult do you want your death to be?

Love ya, Jed.



Hai Jed,

1. Fear, in both the cling on thing and let go thing.

2. Stupid question. What do you think?

Greatings Sparrow.


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Re: Jed rant, letting go, stimulated by Gromer
« Reply #11 on: November 03, 2014, 09:32:00 am »
Considering the illusory nature of this existence and my nearly complete lack of free will I am actually fairly embarrassed by all of them. So to avoid a pure alphabet soup and in the interests of fierce honesty here a partial list of the attachments which have manifested thus far this morning;
My morning tea
My failure to charge phone
My Sweetheart's dental distress
My daughter's sprained ankle
My exercise regimen
The fact that I used 'my' 6 times already
Jed's rant and responses
Mork's departure
The teaching's of Jed and BK versus those in A Course in Miracles
Lack of laundry change
Global warming
The plight of the polar bear
Colony collapse in bees
Poaching in Africa
The health of my father
The fates of various sports teams
A productive bm
Tightness in my neck and shoulders
The calls of Sandhill cranes flying overhead
My oldest daughter's afternoon visit
Netflix distribution centers being closed on Saturday
My rock climbing project route at the gym
Crowds of selfish climbers at the gym
Idiot drivers
Fear of mechanical problems with car 180
Food I like versus food I should eat
Laundry facility availability
Bosses demands
Clients flakiness
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Boy howdy! I am just one hot mess, a regular dumpster fire of fear and neediness and clinging. Tended to think of this work as shoveling crap, but I think a chainsaw might be the first tool I should use to lop off all these ridiculous attachments!
Off to fire up the pruners!




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Re: Jed rant, letting go, stimulated by Gromer
« Reply #12 on: November 03, 2014, 09:50:23 am »
Immediately upon re reading my post  I realized these much more honest attachments;
Desire to appear clever
Fear of failure
Viewing myself as a failure
Juggling lies
Need to sharpen shears. Too dull to cut through these ropy vines. Least that's what I tell myself. Anything to avoid the actual severing

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« Reply #13 on: November 03, 2014, 10:04:31 am »
1. Pleasant feelings of all shapes and sizes.

If I think about it, the moments of greatest happiness in my life aren't so much related to this or that (with one exception--- the happiness of family love). What I would say the moments of greatest happiness are the ones that just come. One day, I blissed out on the sofa looking at my unkept basement. But most "life" milestones left me thinking, "Is that all there is?" And when I get really sick, it wouldn't matter if I were surrounded by sunsets, dancing girls, and million dollar bills. So for me, I would say it is less what is appearing and more how is it feeling.

You know what though, we let go of everything every night drifting off into sleep (or sometimes when meditating). The first thing to go are all the problems and worries. Then personal memories, the body, all of it goes. And it is so great that it is sometimes hard to get out of bed in the morning.

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« Reply #14 on: November 03, 2014, 11:34:59 am »
Hi Jed.

I never knew worrying, wishing, wanting and on could be considered clinging.
 
Here are mine:

Wishing my son can develop interest to learn what I am learning about being H/A first.
Worrying if my son continue drinking and taking drugs he might not live long or have some illness soon.
Worrying my grandchild might be affected by his drinking and start drinking one day when he grows up.
Drinking coffee (one cup a day) what will do to my health in the long run.
Wanting and wishing if I can have my own home than paying rent. Thought it’s a waste of money renting.

Thanks for everything that you do to help humanities who live in the dark.