That was a "wow" rant, Jed. From my experience, I can attest that allowing others just to be process works perfectly, makes a dream much more pleasant . Unfortunately, however, and also in my experience, it takes a lot of all around work on yourself, breaking one's behavior patterns. Basically, I learned to shut up, to stop sharing or expressing opinions in talking to people or texting on the phone or posting things/pictures on facebook - the last one is the worst thing one can do, it perpetuates/continues an even faker than fake story of you. In a strange way, things I have changed about my behavior, broke the story of "me", the story did not have to be constantly maintained anymore. That was a liberating feeling. I broke a pattern, I "erased personal history" - that was borrowed from Castaneda. I know you are not a fan of Castaneda, but the "path with the heart" book never made its way to me, the one the Universe dropped on my lap was "Journey to Ixtlan" and I proceeded to thoroughly follow the steps of erasing personal history (ego substructure demolition), taking responsibility for every experience that occurs to me, making death an advisor (momento mori), not taking myself seriously. That was 4 years ago, before universe decided to drop your book on my lap last year. SA process just streamlined everything, made it an autobahn highway, anything that was not yet destroyed, crumbled within months.
But now it becomes a question of a chicken and an egg: do you allow others "just to be" themselves, without changing them, starting now; or you first do work on yourself, and then allowing others "just to be" is an effortless byproduct of the process. From my experience shutting your mouth up and stopping story sharing with people around you is a great thing to, when one doesn't know where to start. Oh and if something bothers you - SA it right away, that annoyance energy is a great fuel, that burns clearly, leaving no traces or stories afterwards.
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