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Jed McKenna

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Re: Jed Rant: More about ''Love ya''.
« on: May 12, 2017, 02:05:05 am »
Thank you all for your posts...

Dear C;

You wrote: do you allow others "just to be" themselves, without changing them, starting now; or you first do work on yourself, and then allowing others "just to be" is an effortless byproduct of the process.

Back at ya, you know the answer to that question and don't need input from me.

Let me give you an example of a great teacher, my father. Once, when I was about  7 years old, I became interested in model planes. I noticed that balsa wood was very light. So, I asked him what woods were heavy. He said something like, ''Let's find out''.

We went to some woody type guys and I ended up with a block of balsa wood and a block of Lignum Vitae. One weighed ounces and one was quite a few pounds. Now I know a little more about wood, but it was never about wood... it was all about him teaching me how to learn and teach others.

That, in a twisted way, brings me to another little tale. I was sitting having coffee with a friend here. He doesn't know who I really am, but that's not important. He went on about how much he hated beggars and wouldn't give them any money. Ah... the chance for a little fun.

I know pretty much all the beggars around here and I noticed a mom and her lovely little daughter coming down the street. I told him to just hang on to his thoughts for a moment and I started rifling around in my pockets like I was looking for something important. I said, ''Ah crap, have you got a dollar bill on you?''. I said it with a certain tone of gravity. Just as he passed it to me, my beggars friends approached. I snatched his dollar, got up and walked over to them and gave it to mom. She graciously thanked me. I returned to my seat and nonchalantly said, ''Oh, they were very thankful, now where were we?''. He had considerable trouble speaking for a moment. I think there was a little re-wiring going on.

Of course all of this was an act. I was putting him on in order to see if I could shake up his thinking a little. There is nothing wrong with giving money and nothing wrong with not giving, but I am not big on compulsive habitual behaviors that limit one's responses. I like flexibility. I can assure you his thinking will be a little different the next time someone asks for money. How it might be different, that's up to him and I don't really care.

The point of the above is that... if someone asks for help, and they are dead sincere, if you can get them to do something with their bodies, or you can model out something with yours, it will open up more doors than the standard..'''Well, why don't you blah, blah.'' or, ''I would just tell him/her to f-off''. Verbal expressions are of little impact compared to physical actions.

The simple act of you listening and then contemplating alternatives (with your MOUTH SHUT) will open up doors in the other in subtle ways. I have found these kind of ''tricks'' quite helpful in the past... not about T/R, but very much about being happy and a good actor in other's movies.

Love ya, Jed.