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Jed McKenna

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Jed Rant: The Myths of Human Adulthood
« on: June 20, 2017, 09:53:36 pm »
Dear Members and Lurkers:

Very little writing is about Human Adulthood and there are not many myths about it. In its infant form it appears as ''self-improvement'' work. Almost always that is about developing a stronger self-image or ego. This is not my experience of H/A. Let me talk about some of the ''none myths'' of H/A:

None Myth #1: You will be happy and no longer experience sorrow.

I grant you that this is a rather grandiose outcome, but it is not far from the truth (literally and figuratively).The understandings that come from becoming adult include such things as realizing that no one can ever hurt you and you can never hurt another. All hurts are based on stories that something or someone should or shouldn't do something or be a certain way. Realizing this source of emotional pain and dealing with it prior to such stimulus arising leaves one quite immune to such silliness.

None Myth #2: You will lose all sense of guilt and regret.

Now that's a biggie but not impossible. Realizing (through appropriate study and contemplations) that you are 100% responsible for everything that arises and never at fault or guilty of anything leads to the experience that neither is anyone else in this dream. Very freeing.

None Myth #3: Attaining H/A will assist in adjusting to T/R.

This is probably the most important facet of H/A. T/R can be, and often is, quite disconcerting and disruptive. It may even take some years to settle in. H/A helps smooth the way. Those other dreamed entities close to you will understand your new state of being a little better and you will be able to deal with their concerns more easily.

None Myth #4: Attaining H/A will destroy existing relationships.

That sounds pretty brutal and calls for a little clarification. H/A can, and often does, bring about changes in relationships and the way you relate to others. The issue is that the lies you have been living by bubble to the surface and become too painful to not be dealt with. Now this is not always the case but it certainly does occur. After some bumpy spots in the road and a little honesty, it inevitably ends up that all parties are happier. This can take a little time and tears, but is always for the better.

None Myth #4: You will lose weight, tan better, grow a thicker head of hair and become more attractive.

Well, you will have to put up with my B.S. for a moment, BUT, becoming more attractive is not as ridiculous as it sounds. Openness, a sense of being free and honest, being more gentle and real, plus other attributes of H/A are certainly more attractive than a robust ego and puffed up self-image, at least you will be attracting a better quality person (forgive my inability to express that well, but I think you can grasp my intentions).

Your thoughts and questions are always welcome and I wish you a happy adulthood.

Love ya, Jed.

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IceBear

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Re: Jed Rant: The Myths of Human Adulthood
« Reply #1 on: June 21, 2017, 09:10:44 am »
It looks so good, that it makes me wonder: why do only few people achieve this state?
But what I really want to know is: how to achieve this state?

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Re: Jed Rant: The Myths of Human Adulthood
« Reply #2 on: June 21, 2017, 09:25:23 am »
Hi Ice Bear:

Most people are addicted to their drama and the endorphins and self-righteous rush that's possible. Those are all transient and draining in the end.

How to get it... just do the work, start with reading more and this forum and then tell me what you learn.

Love ya, Jed.

P.S. If you are not prepared to put in the work it is very unlikely you will achieve H/A.
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Re: Jed Rant: The Myths of Human Adulthood
« Reply #3 on: June 21, 2017, 10:14:40 am »
Jed,
thank you for your reply. I will continue reading your books and this forum.

Before reading this rant today I was wondering if drama-based behavior may be the result of simply not knowing that there are other ways of acting?

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« Reply #4 on: June 21, 2017, 11:42:23 am »
I kinda went to T/R in 2010, freaked out, then realized I was H/A some years later from the way you described it, and then figured "this is it", but then needed some odd years to get used to it. I'm really cool now. :D
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Re: Jed Rant: The Myths of Human Adulthood
« Reply #5 on: June 21, 2017, 10:01:14 pm »
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Re: Jed Rant: The Myths of Human Adulthood
« Reply #6 on: June 23, 2017, 07:57:40 am »
As I wrote once, I consider myself as H.A.  (Am I really?)
In regards to:

None Myth #1: You will be happy and no longer experience sorrow.
Well, I can say that I very, very rarely feel kind of joy I used to as younger... that kind of hilarious almost histerical joy. What I can find is deep and quiet sense of happines. Those two can be compared as ocean and mountain's stream.

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None Myth #2: You will lose all sense of guilt and regret.
Lucky me, but I didn't have lot of problems with sense of guilt. It was like I always knew to do "the right thing".  Regrets...well, with regrets there is different story. I still feel regrets for not being more persistent in some important things. Also I feel regrets for not enjoying in life and having fun...like I missed something in my life.  :-\

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None Myth #3: Attaining H/A will assist in adjusting to T/R.
I can't comment because I'm not T/R... yet.  ;)

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None Myth #4: Attaining H/A will destroy existing relationships.
In my case, it has a huge impact. I prefer to spend a lot of time being alone. Of course, it is nice and wellcome to make a short, kind and superficial talk with neighbours (about weather and dogs for example). I'm not interested in their problems, what is happening in their lives, points of view etc. and I'm "afraid"when they start to talk "too much".  ;) The most impact it had on my relation with partner.

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None Myth #4: You will lose weight, tan better, grow a thicker head of hair and become more attractive.
Agree with you Jed.










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Re: Jed Rant: The Myths of Human Adulthood
« Reply #7 on: June 23, 2017, 10:23:47 am »
It was fun to wreck stuff.

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« Reply #8 on: June 27, 2017, 10:10:36 pm »
Thank you for posting those Myths rant about HA and TR affairs Mr.Mckenna. But as i sense those questions are pretty much kindergarten standard and repeated for like a thousand times.
Ha, I'm looking for some high school material but in the same while i know no such answer in amount or quality could satisfies me.

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Re: Jed Rant: The Myths of Human Adulthood
« Reply #9 on: June 27, 2017, 10:43:08 pm »
Dear RJ:

What prohibits you from being totally satisfied in this moment?

Love ya, Jed.

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Re: Jed Rant: The Myths of Human Adulthood
« Reply #10 on: June 27, 2017, 10:59:06 pm »
Thank you for asking like this.
Technically, It could only be "ME" stop myself from satisfaction.

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Re: Jed Rant: The Myths of Human Adulthood
« Reply #11 on: June 28, 2017, 06:05:22 am »
Maybe time to kick that ''ME" in the butt... or love it to death...up to you  ::) ::) ::)

Love ya, Jed.
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Re: Jed Rant: The Myths of Human Adulthood
« Reply #12 on: June 28, 2017, 06:07:14 pm »
Not sure what you are referring to...
(ME might refers to little bastard)

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Re: Jed Rant: The Myths of Human Adulthood
« Reply #13 on: July 10, 2017, 03:58:46 pm »
Is "doing the work" for H/A basically a deliberate and drawn-out way to create the kind of "death of the flesh" event/process that you describe in book 2?

Seems tricky to will something that can't be willed & seems like it's only the un-willed presence of that kind of angry passionate skin-shedding that drives certain individuals to "do the work" without reinforcing the sense of separation.

edit: I realize this is a rant thread, not a Q+A, will move this to my thread in general discussion if that's more appropriate.
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Re: Jed Rant: The Myths of Human Adulthood
« Reply #14 on: July 10, 2017, 07:18:44 pm »
Hi JJ:

Good question. I would describe the growth to S/A as more of the dying of the child and birthing of an adult. Almost everyone in the world operating under the pretense of being an adult is an adult body housing a 7 year old child. Just look at the face, it's quite evident. Sadly, most lack the joy of the child.

T/R is when the heavy work begins. But there are a number of ways to approach T/R that are powerful but not horrific.

Love ya, Jed.