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Re: Jed Rant: You can't deal with guilt.
« Reply #15 on: February 09, 2018, 04:26:21 am »
I came to this rant after a little drama and I realize that problems I think other people have with me are just made up.

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Re: Jed Rant: You can't deal with guilt.
« Reply #16 on: February 10, 2018, 07:57:57 am »
How else would they arise... like... like they are real???  ::) ::) ::)

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Re: Jed Rant: You can't deal with guilt.
« Reply #17 on: February 15, 2018, 02:49:32 pm »
'Without the sense of the personal, the ''I, me, my, mine'' up and running, then who is ''there'' to experience the blame, to feel regret and guilt? No one is home... but there's another facet to loss of the sense of the personal. There is no other person ''out there''. This is experienced as not seeing another but only one's ''Self'' (capital ''S'') as everything that is seen, heard, etc.'



This is something I am thinking about a lot lately. When you lose the person you lose also all her drama and imagined problems. You dont have to dig on the problems one by one, just cut off the person from the equation and you are free. No deep psychoanalisis or fighting with demons needed.

Well now, I can think it but how to feel it? What does one have to do? I am experiencing all life through a layer of my mind. I am not experiencing it directly. How to quiet the mind? (beside SA, is there some practice that would be good for that?)

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Re: Jed Rant: You can't deal with guilt.
« Reply #18 on: February 18, 2018, 02:00:38 pm »
I'm reluctant to post in response to the question posed directly to Jed but as I count them (3 days) since you asked I'll share my experience with "quieting the mind"

Thoughts tend to wander when you're not being very present. The mind will replay items on it's agenda from a time when you were more present. So the number one way to deal with this is to have no unfinished business and to be more present.

If this doesn't work then you can either zoom your attention onto something else to occupy your attention, something else that's more interesting or you can zoom your attention out to where you don't notice the mind rambling like a television left on in the other room.

Also when there is no you resisting the thoughts they will cease to be a problem. Thoughts come and go and you wouldn't necessarily want to stop them unless you thought they were a problem to begin with. Let them come up. Who cares? Just observe and don't become resistant or attached to any of them.

Hope that's somewhat helpful.

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Re: Jed Rant: You can't deal with guilt.
« Reply #19 on: February 18, 2018, 03:44:09 pm »
It is very helpful. All 3 ways I like very much. Will try all of them. Thank you j(! Wish you all the best
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Re: Jed Rant: You can't deal with guilt.
« Reply #20 on: February 19, 2018, 12:26:16 am »
Love your ''television left on in the next room'' metaphor/analogy.

Good work.

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Re: Jed Rant: You can't deal with guilt.
« Reply #21 on: March 26, 2018, 08:59:41 pm »
i'm listening to johnny cash playing on the television via pandora in the room to the left of where i sit.
did you know the living room only became the 'living room' once mortuaries began offering funeral services in the mid-1900's. moving ceremonies for the dead from the home into an 'off-site' location? no longer obligated to holding the rites of a corpse, families were encouraged, via mass marketing, to reclaim their sofa space as a place for the living, rather than the honoring of the dead. make of it what you will  ::)

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Re: Jed Rant: You can't deal with guilt.
« Reply #22 on: March 27, 2018, 02:34:53 am »
Thanks for sharing  that.... I put in my font of info.

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