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Jed McKenna

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Jed Rant, Your H/A rating.
« on: September 19, 2017, 09:15:17 am »
Dear Members, Lurkers and Devotional Bliss-bunnies:

Have you ever wonder how far along the road to H/A you have come, or perhaps, looked at someone and wondered how far he or she is along the path to adulthood? Over too many years of study, observation and experience, I have found that there is one very consistent indicator.

Drama is all about not getting what one wants... about frustration, loss, inadequacies, bad parents, kids in jail, just about any situation where someone doesn't get what they want, and even better, someone else gets it. Drama is based on shoulds, coulds, wouldn't, needs, wants, just about anything that goes against what is. What is is exactly what is and not amount of denying it has ever changed it.

Imagine this, you are struggling along in life and you next door neighbor comes charging in one day, glowing like a Cali grow op, and declares he has won the lottery, who hoo! Ecstatic in a Homer Simpson way... smiles from ear to ear.

Now...my question is how are you going to feel? All shoulds and shouldn't aside, how would you react? Your actual response is an excellent measure of how adult you are.

Imagine you turn on CNN and announcer has gone all Jim Carrey on the TV audience. ''Evening folks, well... not much happened today, mostly same old same old, pretty much like yesterday, Yeh, another hurricane, but same as the first.... oh.. it seems that Bob and Better Sturnholme in Eugene, Oregon had a new grandchild, a little boy... congrats to the fam... so... that's about it. I'll probably be here tomorrow, but don't expect anything exciting. See ya then. Love ya."

Then you turn to your favorite soap, As the Stomach Turns. This is the first new season episode and finds Laura and Nancy talking over a coffee. Nancy is totally heads over heals for Jason, a real hunk. Laura says, ''Well, why don't you just come out and ask him to marry you''. Nancy says,  "You think I could do that?''. ''Well, worst he could say is no''.

Nancy plucks up the courage and asks Jason. He says ''Yes''... they get married and end up deliriously happy into their golden years. Of course the soap is promptly canned and the writer fired.

But drama doesn't work like that. In the dramatic version, Nancy asks Jason and he says he is in love with Laura and won't marry her. Of course Laura is gay and in love with Nancy and delighted with Jame's rejection of the proposal. Laura is not going to get what she wants because Nancy is as straight as an arrow. End of episode.

Life is more like this than not for most people. Folks like watching TV and actually believe it... spend hours each day watching soaps and the like. Maybe it's forums or blogs, the kinds that foment argument and demeaning posts ... and in doing so lift the observer and writer up to new heights of illusory self-esteem.

So, watch yourself and others. The draw to drama is a pretty good indicator of how adult you are. How you feel about your neighbor winning that lottery will tell you plenty about yourself if you listen.

What do you want but aren't getting? What do you want and it seems everyone but you is getting it? What do you not want yet is seems to be constantly turning up in your world? A better question would be, how do you know that you want or don't want something? What informs you of your preferences? Are you sure you want and don't want certain things?

Maybe take a moment and want exactly what you have in this moment. What law says you can't want what arises to you? What or who is the ultimate adjudicator of what is right or wrong? Is that little voice in your head even yours? Maybe it's a parent, an early school teacher, a minister, a friend you look up to.. I don't know. BUT, I don't listen to any voice that isn't MINE, which means there are very few voices going around in my head... and if it happens to say something, I listen closely.

So, where are you on your journey to H/A... and while on the topic, why even bother with H/A? I can answer for you (yeah, sheesh, I actually am that arrogant)... because you aren't happy. That sums it up, make up all the reasons you want, but that is what it boils down to... am I right? Come on, be honest, am I right? You read this far so somethings bothering you.

If you are still reading, let me offer you some (non-asked for) advice. Stop engaging in, watching, encouraging drama in your life. It's only going to give you a temporary rush, like that double chocolate fudge banana split sunday... in the end it will take years off your life and life out of your years. You haven't materialized in the dream to burn yourself out with misery and drama. You might be doing that right now though... have a look and see. What have you done lately that was like throwing gas on your drama campfire?

How far are you along the road to becoming an adult... it's right in front of you.

Love ya, Jed.

P.S. I hope my friggin neighbor buys are quieter lawnmower with his lotto winnings so I can sleep in more. God meant me to sleep in, that's why I do it.





 


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Re: Jed Rant, Your H/A rating.
« Reply #1 on: September 19, 2017, 10:34:36 am »
Today the question: what will remain of me if ill cut loose my drama... and now you post this.. 🤔 I am nothing without it. Time to make something fun out of this peace of ****.

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« Reply #2 on: September 19, 2017, 11:04:57 am »
Always a good time for fun....

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« Reply #3 on: September 19, 2017, 02:53:34 pm »
Sometimes it seems to me that I'm writing to myself. ))
What you write is my thoughts.

What do you want but aren't getting? What do you want and it seems everyone but you is getting it? What do you not want yet is seems to be constantly turning up in your world? A better question would be, how do you know that you want or don't want something? What informs you of your preferences?
These are very profound questions. Very concentrated.
The answers to these questions are the keys.

... the keys to freedom...

Jed, dear, I have nothing to add to the topic.
Love you.
« Last Edit: September 19, 2017, 03:13:50 pm by Marina_ »

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« Reply #4 on: September 20, 2017, 04:50:06 am »
Well, don't ask me... you already know the answer.

Love ya, Jed

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« Reply #5 on: September 21, 2017, 05:29:49 am »
Are you sure you want and don't want certain things?
Am I sure?
Do I want things?
Do I want this cereal in front of me?
There’s salivation
Quick surges of commands to eat.

How do I know what I want?
What is in control here?  Cause it's not me
do i eat that cereal or do i throw it out? either way its not my decision. just looking at that stupid bowl is bothering me now.
How do I decide?
Cereal on wall  :(

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« Reply #6 on: September 21, 2017, 01:12:07 pm »
Well then, I suggest you have nothing to do with it or me...

But wouldn't that be an adult approach to your opinions?

Love ya, Jed.

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« Reply #7 on: September 21, 2017, 02:31:42 pm »
Dude , you are a real deal ! Awesome *slowclap*
Yes , in my life I encouraged drama around the dream of travelling with someone else's money ( like company sponsored trip for strictly official purposes). I have the money to travel on my own .. but no .. the dream is strictly about company travel. .. which makes me ( or might make me ) feel competent , more power and you know .. a reason to be arrogant in my demeanour.

Everyone else I know had travelled on company's expense. But not me. I imagined arrogance/ confidence as my end prize out of this dreamy thing. Everyone else seems getting a chance to travel on company's .. but not me. I used to cry alot. That crying was for my only longing desire.
Well, now I don't cry that much. These wailing episodes used to go on for years loaded with self loathing and guilt .. now they last for 30mins max.

So, not bad a progress on H/A front.
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« Reply #8 on: September 21, 2017, 05:32:08 pm »
Hmm, this mind is most bothered by seeing people in perceived happy relationships and getting dates. Strange thing called envy. Not ever having had a significant other is my most persistent stumbling block. Maybe it's the final one, I don't know.

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« Reply #9 on: September 21, 2017, 09:56:19 pm »
Still rantin'. Good show. You rock, Jed. Thanks for everything.

JDas.

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« Reply #10 on: September 22, 2017, 02:09:55 am »
Good work...all of you.

Love ya, Jed.

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« Reply #11 on: September 22, 2017, 03:53:58 am »
 :D :D :D
Yesterday I re-read the topic and the replies ..
You answered the question of the forum member, and then he deleted his question. So your reply turned up after my post.
And suddenly a sequence appeared.
So funny!

…Laura says, ''Well, why don't you just come out and ask him to marry you''…
…Nancy plucks up the courage and asks Jason. He says ''Yes''...

What you write is my thoughts…

Jed, dear, I have nothing to add to the topic.
Love you.

Well, don't ask me... you already know the answer.

Love ya, Jed

 ;D

I entered the word "marry" in the context dictionary:

'marry':

'So, monster or not, you must marry him.'
'Maria 46074 To merry to a foreigner- what are the reasons of this occurrence?'


Have a fun day.  :-* ;D
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« Reply #12 on: September 22, 2017, 07:24:07 am »
By the way, a good example of manipulating quotes, giving them a different meanings. ))

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« Reply #13 on: September 23, 2017, 01:52:56 am »
Do you really know the meaning of anything?

Love ya, Jed

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« Reply #14 on: September 23, 2017, 10:17:25 am »
No